A couple of months ago I mysteriously disappeared from the blog without warning. The day after my last post I had lost all control of myself and where I was going. I needed a break, one that would force me to slow down completely, change aspects inside and out that weren’t working, and to rebuild the way I talked to myself. After 3 months, I finally feel like myself again and I am grateful I’ve done the work to get here. The majority of tools that I’ve used were from my psychologist and from self exploration of TEDx talks on YouTube. If life ever gets you down in the future, I hope these daily tasks can help you as much as they have me. ❤
This past month I’ve paid more attention to my own self care. I colored and designed the gratitude book above to write in every day and have kept it up since November 6th. I like to write about the things I’m grateful for with colorful gel pens, my inner child likes it that way and the more colors mixed in the better, lol. I even get creative and draw pictures or doodle in spots. I write 5 things I am grateful for before bed and in the morning.
This daily practice has ignited spontaneous gratitudes throughout the day, which is a pretty interesting shift. If I forget to write the extra ones down, I remind myself that I said them earlier in the day and that is okay too. I’ve heard of the positive effects of writing down gratitude’s before, but now I whole heartedly understand it’s benefits.
Morning Pick Me Ups
I have this saying taped to the first lamp I turn on each morning. Instead of “It’s gonna be a great day,” I edited BJ Fogg’s Maui Habit to better suite my personality by saying wonderful. I even throw my arms up in the air with enthusiasm! This has had a good effect on how I wake up for work each day, lol. Not gonna lie, some days just don’t turn out, but I have noticed a change in my waking up routine being more positive. Which I still see as a gain 😉 .
This talk really inspired me 🙂 ❤ . I find myself saying this phrase whenever I feel self conscious about myself throughout the day and I say it in a way like I’d talk to a child (with excitement and a high pitched voice, lol).
YOU ARE ENOUGH
This is also written on my mirror with a dry erase marker. I got this idea of reminding myself “I am enough” from Marisa Peer’s talk. Over the years I’ve struggled with the thought of not being enough, having enough, or living enough, so this one really hit home for me. I haven’t added a daily reminder to my phone yet, but plan to try it out this week 🙂 .
Knowing Your Wants and Needs
I didn’t know what I wanted or what my needs were when I was lost in my stresses a few months back, but when I stopped and really thought about what was important to me, they started to emerge. One other Mirror reminder that I say to myself is to honor my own self love and care so I made it personal. I break down my needs of massages, exercise, and creative outlets into a more playful phrase:
“I need touch, movement, attention, and play from myself. These are my needs and I intend to seduce myself with them.”
Lol. I got the seduce myself part from a different talk, that I can’t seem to find but, it felt right because it sounds more interesting to fall in love with yourself through seduction. I’m consciously enticing myself to be more attentive to my needs and accomplishing them. I have briefly loved myself before but it was kind of an ego approach of wanting to “Be good.” I want to create such a strong and solid foundation so that the next time I build a glass castle, I will still remember a love for myself that is concrete and constant.
Loving Myself So I Can Love The World
I no longer wish to give my heart and self love away to others, instead I am creating a love so strong in myself that it overflows my own needs and helps heal others, even the world. It may be a tall order, but lately I feel anything is possible as long as I stay true to who I really am. ❤ (((HUGS))) Thank you for listening my friends, I am ever so grateful of you. See you next Thursday! You Are Enough 😉 !